Abuse / Survivors of Abuse

Years in Practice

10 years +


Jamestown RI 02835 - United States



Additional Expertise

Counselor/Therapist, Marriage and Family Therapist, Relationship Coach, Sex Therapist, Speaker/Presenter

I Practice in

My state/province only



I Believe

Health requires that we are connected to our whole selves.

About Gretchen Blycker

Gretchen Blycker, LMHC, LMT, RYT, has been a professional in the health and wellness field for the last 20+ years.  As a licensed massage therapist, registered yoga teacher, licensed mental health counselor specializing in mindfulness-based therapy and sexual and relational health, and part-time faculty member of a university teaching Human Sexuality, she is in a unique position of being able to integrate an expert’s knowledge from four distinct professions in the health field.  Her unique range of trainings and professional experiences serve to benefit an evolution in thinking and understanding of what promotes balance and health in a comprehensive and truly holistic way (mind/body/energy).  In her therapeutic work with clients, Gretchen draws from a mindful process that investigates and explores core beliefs as well as sexual behaviors and practices with a view of how they affect outcomes of mental and relational health.

Gretchen has developed a Mindful Model of Sexual Health that she uses in her work.  This model is a framework to organize the distinctive and dynamic information from an individual’s body and mind, it serves as a navigational system, and it offers integrative mindful tools that are beneficial in providing personalized guidance in her work with clients.  This mindful way of working is both inclusive of all people, while also allowing for the complexities and individual differences that are supportive of the multiplicity of expressions of our individualized authentic sexual selves. Health requires that we are connected to our whole selves.  The Mindful Model of Sexual Health acknowledges our inherent wholeness and our interconnectivity as well as the complexity of myriad factors that influence sexual health and subjective satisfaction and contentment. This model provides a map to navigate the intricacies of the many influencing factors that create a balance towards, or barriers to, sexual health.

About Mindfulness-based therapy Sex Therapy: There are many ongoing benefits of mindfully managing sexual health. Mindful management is empowering and proactive by developing and practicing skills that identify what specifically promotes balance and health for each individual, as well as what leads to imbalance. It is an integrative approach that includes a holistic perspective of including body and mind in identifying and cultivating the development of an individual’s authentic sexual self.  Practicing mindfulness-based basic tools, for use in accessing information, supports individuals to make informed decisions for more immediate course correction, that is advantageous for short and long-term contentment and well-being.

In therapy, we identify and follow an individual’s personal values and beliefs. We practice mindful exploration of the sexual self and individuals learn about skillful management of personal erotic energy.  The experiencing, experimenting, and deepening understanding of one’s authentic sexual self is a conscious and self-respecting process that assesses for health, harm and safety.  This process is starkly different from mindlessly and carelessly repeating past expressions of sexuality that might have had included some short-term pleasures, leading to longer-term adverse consequences. Examples of some ways that one’s sexuality can be negatively influenced include; operating from an arousal template that is informed by past trauma, acting out sexual behaviors that induce shame or create disconnection, engaging in sexual experiences that are in conflict with one’s values, or by acting out problematic or compulsive expressions of sexuality. Therapy assists in learning to tolerate the constantly changing flow of the river of mind and emotions without defaulting to automatic reactions or seeking distractions.  In addition, cultivating self-awareness, self-compassion, and self-understanding and then extending this awareness, compassion, and understanding towards others ultimately brings personal freedom and a sense of connection with self and others in intimate ways."